WHY you still don’t sing better
If you’re like me and you’ve sat through endless hours of singing lessons (and if you aren’t, be REALLY glad!), you know that these singing lessons are NOT for asking questions.
They’re for doing what you’re told.
If you’re one of the very bravest (or like me, completely clueless of impending scorn) and you have dared to timidly raise a hand in the presence of the almost-mythically-robed-wise-ones and ask the dirtiest three letter word to ever exist, you know the wrath of a teacher without a good answer.
Why we don’t ask why
I have always been a front-row, hand-always-raised kind of girl. So I’ve had the opportunity to experience the entire pool of possible reactions from a teacher who is…
a) caught of guard
b) doesn’t have any idea how to answer
or 3) has their identity way too tightly strung around their vocal degree
If you’ve had a teacher that can’t help you, everything that follows your question will boil down to this:
It’s YOUR fault!
- You didn’t practice hard enough.
- You didn’t listen to the directions clearly enough
- You didn’t rub your tummy and pat your head in the right order while you sang and missed that note.
- You’re just getting too big for your britches listening to all that ‘pop-singer-voodoo’ and what-not.
Blah blah BLAH.
GOOD LORD! It’s no WONDER we all think we can’t sing!
THE POWER OF WHY
“WHY?” is the single best question you can ever ask. And it is absolutely essential if you’re trying to sing better.
“Why does it hurt when I sing?”
…can be opening to a discussion that gives you the tools to avoid serious damage or an understanding of when you need to see a doctor and what to ask them.
“Why can’t I hit this note?”
…could lead to a the design of a simple to remember quick tip you can use so you never miss it again.
“Why is my voice strong here, but too soft here?”
…is a wonderful invitation to learn HOW your voice works and how you can learn to DECIDE how EVERY note comes out, EVERY time.
“Why isn’t the training I’m following giving me better results?”
Be prepared. THIS is the question at the bottom of it all. But this one isn’t for your voice teacher. This one is for YOU.
If you have listened intently to your teacher and followed precisely what they’ve given you as the solution to your concerns, there should be a reasonable expectation that you will see. hear, and/or feel a difference very soon.
With The Voice Club Method, we expect it pretty immediately.
Because if nothing changes and you’re left not knowing what to do outside of blaming your own lack of ability, one of these things has happened:
- You weren’t honest about following what they gave you (you have to be responsible to do your part)
- Your instructor didn’t know how to effectively communicate to you, or
- What they gave you isn’t going to give you the results you wanted
(spoiler alert: it’s almost always #3)
How do I know #3 is probably the answer? Because the majority of singing lessons and vocal instruction out there does not take one major thing into consideration: your anatomical voice.
Sounds like a no-brainer, but then I’m simple girl.
What Can I Do NOW?
Start asking ‘why’ about everything when it comes to your voice.
If the idea makes you cringe, start with the questions above. They’re all questions you have the right to know, and actually NEED to know!
Don’t forget to ask yourself ‘why’ too.
“Does the answer I got make sense to me?”
This is the start of taking control of your own voice and vocal education.
If you really want to know what not to believe & to start seeing the proof in your voice, go through our Vocal Bootcamp mini-course.
Do This Now
Whether you’re working with a singing teacher or not, take this challenge:
1. Get a notebook and start writing down every question about your voice that pops into your head.
No question is too stupid. (Actually the ‘stupidest’ questions are usually the ones with the most ‘ah-ha’ invoking answers!)
2. Go through Vocal Bootcamp.
If you’re like most people, when you’re done you’ll start to see that every answer you’ve learned answers more than one question on your list.
You’ll also start to notice some redundancy in any questions that may still remain.
That means your brain has already learned enough to start narrowing all of your questions down to the most effective questions you can ask to get the answers you most need.
2. The next time you run into any kind of singing teacher, ask them at least one of your questions.
Even if you have no clue what their answer means, just nod and smile. You’ve got everything you need.
Write down the answers they gave for later. The more you learn about how your voice really works it’ll get easier to see which answers are just bogus and which are true but just explained in a confusing way.
3. Then revisit your list from time to time. As you read through the answers you’ve gotten, ask yourself which one makes the most sense and ask yourself ‘why’.
What if I’ve Already Been Asking?
If you’ve been reading this thinking, ‘been there, done that’, this question is for your singing teacher, not you.
….and the answer is NOT ‘maybe you’re just not meant to be a singer’!
The more grounded what you’re being taught is in FACT (not opinion or blindly repeating what they’ve been taught) the faster the right answers make sense AND create RESULTS.
No results? Still confusing? It may be time to start looking for a different coach.
The more we know about our voice, the less dependent we are on blindly believing anything we hear…
…and the more empowered we become to finally start to see what our voices can really do.
…..and start asking ‘WHY?!’
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