If you’re like me and you’ve sat through endless hours of singing lessons (and if you aren’t, be REALLY glad!), you know that these singing lessons are NOT for asking questions.
They’re for doing what you’re told.
If you’re one of the very bravest (or like me, completely clueless of impending scorn) and you have dared to timidly raise a hand in the presence of the almost-mythically-robed-wise-ones and ask the dirtiest three letter word to ever exist, you know the wrath of a teacher without a good answer.
Why you don’t ask why
I have always been a front-row, hand-always-raised kind of girl. So I’ve had the opportunity to experience the entire pool of possible reactions from a teacher who is…
a) caught of guard
b) doesn’t have any idea how to answer
or 3) has their identity way too tightly strung around their vocal degree
If you’ve had a teacher that can’t help you, everything that follows your question will boil down to this:
It’s YOUR fault!
- You didn’t practice hard enough.
- You didn’t listen to the directions clearly enough
- You didn’t rub your tummy and pat your head in the right order while you sang and missed that note.
- You’re just getting too big for your britches listening to all that ‘pop-singer-voodoo’ and what-not.
Blah blah BLAH.
GOOD LORD! It’s no WONDER we all think we can’t sing!
THE POWER OF WHY
“WHY?” is the single best question you can ever ask. And it is absolutely essential if you’re trying to sing better.
“Why does it hurt when I sing?”
…can be opening to a discussion that gives you the tools to avoid serious damage or an understanding of when you need to see a doctor and what to ask them.
“Why can’t I hit this note?”
…could lead to a the design of a simple to remember quick tip you can use so you never miss it again.
“Why is my voice strong here, but too soft here?”
…is a wonderful invitation to learn HOW your voice works and how you can learn to DECIDE how EVERY note comes out, EVERY time.
“Why isn’t the training I’m following giving me better results?”
Be prepared. THIS is the question at the bottom of it all. But this one isn’t for your voice teacher. This one is for YOU.
If you have listened intently to your teacher and followed precisely what they’ve given you as the solution to your concerns, there should be a reasonable expectation that you will see. hear, and/or feel a difference very soon. With The Voice Club Method, we expect it pretty immediately.
Because if nothing changes and you’re left not knowing what to do outside of blaming your own lack of ability, one of these things has happened:
- You weren’t honest about following what they gave you (you have to be responsible to do your part)
- Your instructor didn’t know how to effectively communicate to you, or
- What they gave you isn’t going to give you the results you wanted
(spoiler alert: it’s almost always #3)
How can I claim that spoiler alert? Because the majority of singing lessons and vocal instruction out there does not take one major thing into consideration: your anatomical voice.
Sound like a no-brainer, but then I’m simple girl.
What Can I Do?
Start asking ‘why’ about everything when it comes to your voice. If the answer makes sense to you, ask yourself ‘why’? If it makes no sense at all, ask yourself ‘why’? This is the start of taking control of your own voice and vocal education.
Now go through our Vocal Bootcamp training video. It’s basically a roadmap through vocal myths and fluff with clear, concrete tools to see the truth of how your voice works.
We don’t train a single singer or group of people at a conference without starting with our Vocal Bootcamp training. It is literally everything you should’ve been told about your voice and what you need to be empowered to ask even better questions so you can know what to look for when you’re trying to sing better.
Whether you’re working with a singing teacher or not, take this challenge:
Get a notebook and any time a question pops into your head, write it down. No question is too stupid. Actually the ‘stupidest’ questions are usually the ones with the most ‘ah-ha’ invoking answers!
Then go through Vocal Bootcamp. When you’re done, go through your list and see how many questions you can answer. The next time you’re around a singing teacher, ask them the same questions.
Then write down the answers you got from them.
THEN, ask yourself which one makes the most sense and ask yourself ‘why’. You will be amazed at how much you know and clear things become!
The more you know about your voice, the better you’ll be at seeing what will really help your voice get where you want to go.
Go forward…..and ask ‘WHY?’